The Cost of Quiet

The number one lament women share with couple's therapist Colette Fehr is 'I wish I had spoken up sooner'. Regardless of age, race, education and economic status, her clients-and women the world over-are suffering from an epidemic of 'quiet quitting' in their relationships. The cost of this self-imposed silence decimates well-being and destroys partnerships. Whether due to fear of conflict, protection of the status quo, discomfort around vulnerability or culturally instilled self-sacrificing, suppressing the expression of feelings and needs is an act of acute self-abandonment, one which leaves women feeling depleted, disconnected, emotionally paralyzed, lonely, frustrated and unfulfilled.

The Cost of Quiet is the antidote to this crisis. Both a call-to-action and a practical guide, it gives readers the skillset to experience more meaningful connection to themselves and to their partners. Through a series of exercises designed to embolden women to value their inner experience, The Cost of Quiet gives them the tools to communicate their truth confidently and effectively in a way that deepens understanding and intimacy.

Drawing from Attachment Science and evidence-based therapeutic modalities such as Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, among others, Colette has created a roadmap called 'The Self-Connected Communication Method' that will eradicate resentment and empower women to emotionally flourish. The book weaves psychological studies with client and personal stories, experiential practices and questions for reflection.

There are lots of books on attachment theory, but very little specifically focused on avoidant attachment - until now. The Cost of Quiet shows how avoidant behaviour can seriously undermine a relationship, but how each of us can learn to stop avoiding and start connecting.